I can’t begin to understand the pain of a long-term relationship ending, but if there is one thing I can attest to, it’s the fact that the enemy will do all he can in your state of vulnerability to keep you hidden, alone and brokenhearted for as long as he can. So take time for a little soul uplifting each day and before you even realize it. you’ll be teaching yourself how to get over your ex.
Here are just a few ways to uplift your soul when it’s been crushed. Pray daily for your heart to heal. Find time to rest and devote a special time to God specifically for your heart. Allow yourself to make a normal routine to have coffee with a close friend you can confide in. And of course, read His Word to soothe your soul.
How To Get Over Your Ex In 5 Steps
1. Accept Invitations From Friends & Family
Even though it’s easier to be a hermit, keep your friends close, and your family closer. Part of knowing how to get over your ex is knowing how to build a life without them, so go to outings you’ve been invited to, and try your best not to miss out on important events going on in your family.
I understand that hiding is so much easier than putting yourself out there, and I don’t mean in the dating sense. Just simply going out to dinner seems like a feat because you’ll feel all that everyone knows is your break-up story.
Yet, amidst all of the inner storms going on, allow your family to lift you up when they want to. Allow your friends to take you out when they can to cheer your soul, even if it’s just a little. That’s all family and friends are able to do for you, so it’s okay to let them do what they can. It’s also a beautiful thing to ask for your heart and soul to be prayed over for healing.
2. Pray For Healing
It’s also vital that you pray daily for your heart to heal. Your soul has been anguished; it feels like the deepest part of you has been ripped out. Sometimes, prayer is the one thing you can turn to in order to find rest.
Pain is tiring; it leaves you numb, hopeless and depressed; it makes you feel like you’ll never be able to exist outside of that ache again. Rest assured that God never intended for His daughter or son to feel anguish their whole life. Everything is but a season, beloved, so trust that God will bring you though this sea of pain.
If there is one thing that God delights in, it’s seeing an anguished daughter or son in earnest prayer before their Holy Father, allowing Him to soothe, heal and bring restoration. God knows you and sees you in a way that no one else can. He can show you how to get over your ex.
“She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.” —Genesis 16:13
3. Find Time To Rest
It’s important to rest after a rough breakup. I don’t just mean in bed with the lights off. I mean find time to truly allow your inner being to be quiet, to rest and to lay before the King.
Sometimes, it simply looks like you sprawled out on the floor, your wild hair disheveled against the carpet, while your lips just quietly sing, “You are faithful God, You are Holy God, You are my Healer God, I surrender my pain to you Father.” Sometimes, resting is dancing alone, reading a devotional or floating on the lake listening to His gentle whispers in the wind and ripples. Our God is always speaking truths to you; He will not remain silent as long as you call upon Him.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” —Psalm 34:18
4. Confide In Someone
It’s also a nice idea to have a close confidant with whom you can share your innermost feelings and how you’re progressing in your heartbreak. Whether it’s a sister or a best friend, have that coffee date and allow yourself to laugh freely, to toss your head back and gain joy, to speak truths over your life and your heart, and to hear them, too. Ask for their tips on how to get over your ex, and then out those tips into action.
5. Turn To His Word
Never deprive your heart of His Word, especially in times of despair. The very core truths that will bring a peace that transcends all understanding lays in the little black words you read. God lives in those very words. He lives in you. What you speak from The Bible, you speak from the heart of God. Continue to lean into Him.
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” —Philippians 4:7
I do pray you find the light again amidst your pain. I pray you don’t wonder or forget His promises that He has the best for you. I pray you know how worthy, chosen and called you are. A breakup can’t deter that in you, because that’s God’s truth that no person can take away.
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