Be a Safe Dater
Is online dating really safe?
Many people are apprehensive at first about online dating. This is a normal reaction because it is fear of the unknown.
However, online dating is popular and more accepted in today's society. Many people who use online dating to find a mate have success and very positive experiences.
With online dating safety and privacy as number one priorities, reputable online dating sites use technology that keeps their sites private and secure.
In this fast moving society, many people have less time to socialize with others. More people are working harder and longer hours, trying to make ends meet. Thanks to new technologies, online single dating is fast becoming a common means of meeting people.
With online dating you can choose from a wide selection of people, all who share similar interests, including Christianity. You choose the people you want to talk to and all this happens from the privacy of your own home. Nothing is more secure than this.
Do people really lie on online dating sites?
Most people are honest. Unfortunately, not everyone is truthful about the information they will give you. Sometimes people lie out of fear of being rejected.
This type of person may lie about his weight, looks or other physical features. This has to do more with insecurities, in which we all suffer from at one time or another.
Others may not tell the truth because they do not want something to be uncovered in their life. These people may lie about their job, occupation, income or whether they are seeing someone else.
Still, some may not be truthful because they are habitual liars. These people will lie about almost anything. Where they live, their occupation and assets.
Keep your eyes open for people who are being dishonest. Christian relationships are founded on trust and if you can't trust an individual, then quickly move them out of your search for a potential Christian match.
How do I choose a Christian Dating Partner?
As a Christian, it should be important for you to have Christ-centered relationships. Wisely consider if the person you are dating is one of good character and morals. This includes friendship, as well as dating mates. One thing to keep in mind: do not be in such a hurry! Be certain their beliefs line up with yours. Some religions can differ in beliefs when it comes to the bible and the deity of Jesus Christ. Allow a new relationship to grow. Get to know each individual and each individual is needs also, including your own. This is especially important for single Christian parents.
Talk to your children about your dating partners and ease them into the relationship with you. Let the children give their advice about your dates.
Christian leaders are saying...
As a follower of Jesus where do you find that right person, that one who is God’s will for your life? In the past as a Senior Pastor I have said, Find him or her in church. I still believe that but my definition of Church has expanded beyond four walls as I have become a friend and fan of Christian Mingle. God’s man for you ladies or God’s woman for you men may be in a church a thousand miles away; in the next city, or even in the same town. How do you find them? You log onto Christian Mingle.com and allow God to use this process to help you discover the person He has for you. Give God an opportunity to work through Christian Mingle.
~Pastor Jay Dennis, Sr. Pastor, First Baptist Church at the Mall, Lakeland, FL