Online Dating Tips
What is included in the online dating sites?
Online dating sites carry a number of different, varied features including:
E-mail Notifications (Real Time) – This feature delivers email notification when someone wants to talk to you. It allows you to enter a live chat session whenever you are online.
Online Chat/Instant Message – Allows you to chat using instant messaging for windows on the dating site. You can chat without revealing your personal information.
Photo Galleries/Search – This feature allows you to view a group of photos to find one that fits your visual idea.
Favorites – This special feature lest you keep your favorite picks so you can view them later.
Voice Greetings/Messages – This is another personalized dating profile. Uses voice greetings and messages to give others the opportunity to hear your voice before meeting you.
Best Features – This option lets you select your most attractive quality and select matches according to your own criteria.
How should I construct my profile?
In staying positive on your online dating profile, focus more on what you like instead of what you dislike. A few dislikes are fine, but do not over accentuate the negative.
Never bring up past relationships. It is okay if you are fresh out of a relationship. However, it is not best to discuss past relationships. You might appear to still be heartbroken over a lost love. Online dating is a fresh start and no one wants to hear about how awful a past love was to you. Leave the past behind. This is your first impression to potential daters. So this is not the time to bring up all your faults and hang-ups. There is no need to reveal all your hang-ups at this time. Allow others to uncover them on their own and as you begin a relationship with them. This could lead your prospective date to believe you are a negative person.
How do you know my mate is mature?
Christian mates should exhibit maturity. "When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child, but when I became a man, I put away childish things."
Mature men grow into good husbands, excellent fathers, and mighty providers for their families and homes. Mature women blossom into sweet loving wives, responsible mothers, and kind women that take care of others in their communities.
In your search for good mates, you should seek someone who is complete within themselves. They are mature enough to handle stressful situations and and make good decisions based on sound judgment. This is a sure sign of maturity.
Watch out for signs of immaturity in others. If they are immature, they will be too playful, have no self-control and a bad sense of judgment.
Show me how to get others to notice my profile?
Your dating profile is like a giant billboard ad, showing others who you are as a person. The ad will say something unique about you. It includes a headline, alias, and personal ad. You can list activities you enjoy, or career goals, or clever slogans. Your personality traits can be highlighted in the profile also. In the profile, you are giving others a general description of what you do or what you enjoy doing. Incorporate many different levels of an endearing profile that offers humor, cleverness, something cute, or will give others a hint of your personality: A fisherman's ad might write something like this: "I'm a fishy person, come swim with me." On the other hand, a painter might write "Let me paint a beautiful landscape of you." Make sure you use only positive and uplifting details that will not scare anyone away from your personal ad. You are drawing others in – sort of like baiting a fish. Nevertheless, you want to catch a good fish, so how you draw them is key. A catchy phrase might capture the attention of someone. Be sure to keep it brief if possible. The less the better. State a few things you like to do and expand upon them. Try not to ramble, as you put in information. It might be too much for others to handle.
Christian leaders are saying...
Before I was married, my life was dramatically impacted by the singles ministry at my church, which was designed to help committed Christians meet someone who shared the same beliefs and values. However, not all churches have that kind of ministry. ChristianMingle is like a virtual singles ministry- a safe place that likeminded singles can meet and forge friendships and dating relationships. It's a community that is digital, but nonetheless very real. As a social researcher and author focused on relationships, I am delighted that ChristianMingle exists, and provides such a great opportunity for God to bring people together.
~Shaunti Feldhahn, Author of For Women Only, For Men Only, and The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages