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What can online dating do for me?
When you are dating online, this is a perfect opportunity to find out about yourself. You can monitor your feelings, reactions and character as you meet different kinds of people online. You will use your email and a cell phone to get to know others. Even before you meet people, you can monitor your response to them. As you pick and choose your dates online, learn to recognize what type of men/women you are drawn to. Are they passive or aggressive people? Did you pick men/women who were more physical or intelligent? Online dating is an opportunity to meet and greet all kinds of people. This will expand your view of what is good and what you find attractive in the opposite sex. Just observe, notice, and get to know everyone. You will notice valuable things you never noticed beforehand. This is also a good time to check for your spiritual depth. And how much you use your intuition versus common sense. As you date for fun, you will be in many different situations that will offer feedback as to how you respond to a certain kind of person. There are many good things to find out about yourself. While you figure out who you are, in relation to others, you will be more prepared to pick someone good.
How are man and women different?
God designed us with so many different personality traits. Each one different and unique. However, our DNA makes us uniquely opposite. In terms of relationship, men and women have very diverse needs:
- Women often love approval, security, affection, gentleness and protection.
- Men often love sexual fulfillment, sports, food, and recreational activities.
- Women tend to be more open, honest, intimate, domestic, effective communicators.
- Men are more introverted, visual, basic, practical, and physically aware.
These important qualities of the female and the male come into play as you begin to date and learn about each other. While dating online, learn about the many relational difficulties that come about because men do not understand the needs of women, and women can not comprehend what is the created nature of men.
Study the complex human nature of males and females to get a better understanding on how to treat and appreciate your future mate. Online dating helps you to gain more of an understanding on how males and females differ from the way they relate to each other.
As you take part in putting together your profile and personal ads and selecting other personal ads. Study how each female and male relate to terms of attracting one another. This can help you to understand things from a male or female perspective.
What can I learn from online dating?
Online dating is a good practice in how to relate to other people. Most people do not have the basic relationship skills needed to relate to others. When you treat your dates as you would want to be treated, you can show them what a good man or woman is really like. Maybe you just need to learn how to listen to others and be less self-centered. Online dating is a great place where you can bring all the parts of you that need spiritual growth to the table. As you correspond with others through email and over the phone, you can practice being a more mature person and learn to spiritually discern what others need and want. Online dating is an activity where you do fun and meaningful things with interesting people. If you are not having fun dating, then something is wrong. Don't spoil meaningful relationships because you did not find the love of your life. Date to have fun. Date to learn. If you only see dating as a chance to marry, you are not experiencing life and missing out on meeting and knowing a lot of wonderful people. Finding Your Christian Mate online can help you to show others God's design for a good relationship.
What can I do to improve my online relations?
A sense of humor is one of the most effective tools to manage the quality of any relationship. A relationship that includes humor is sure to be a healthy one. While corresponding online, maintain a good sense of humor to keep your potential mate interested. Learn to laugh at yourself. It is important to leave our fears and insecurities behind as we seek new, inviting relationships. Conversation and humor go together like cream and sugar. In addition, they usually put both suitors in a relaxed state of mind. Use humor to neutralize conflict or uneasiness within your conversations. When things seem to become tense or uneasy in the conversation, as they sometimes will, humor can bring it back to normal again. Cultivate an atmosphere of laughter by focusing on the funny things in life and enjoying hearing, others laugh again. Soon they will become eager to get to know more about you.
What can I do to encourage my future husband?
Can you speak words of wisdom and encourage a mate with positive words? This is what good Christian mates do!
Admonish your online partners by speaking inspirational words. "I know you can do it." "I believe in you." "What a wonderful person you are!" "I love this quality about you"
People love to be encouraged by others. You will gain a lot of ground by speaking well to people on a daily basis. Prepare to educate yourself on how to be a positive influence for a Christian mate. Practice speaking positive words and admonitions to yourself and to others.
The Holy Bible is full of inspiration and encouragement. Speak verses out loud to yourself each day. A favorite verse is "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
Christian leaders are saying...
I think there are good Christian online dating services, ChristianMingle, I believe it is, is a good one. There are good ones out there. I know people personally who have found wonderful mates through those services.
~Dr. Kenneth O. Robinson, Restoring Life International Church, Pikesville, MD