Do's and Don'ts for Christian Dating
Can I have sex if I am a single Christian?
God is looking for holy people. Christian mates who will not destroy his temple by giving themselves to multiple partners. "Do you know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you. If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him, for the temple of God is holy and that is what you are." I Cor. 3:16.
The bible tells us to flee fornication. Keep your temple clean and look for others who are doing the same. The Lord understands that you are flesh and have weaknesses. Nevertheless, He does not want you to be used and abused by others who care only to take advantage of you. God desires that you find a mate who will not just serve you with their body, but physically, mentally, socially, financially and spiritually. He wants you to have the "total package. This is why He ordained marriage. Therefore, that one person can get the whole package. It is better to receive the total package, then receive just ¼ of it!
How important is spiritual wisdom in my choice for a mate?
Christian singles should carry biblical wisdom in seeking a Christian match. The more we grasp all that earthly relationships are intended to be, the better we can understand what Godly relationship are supposed to be. Christian spiritual insight says that "man should gain understanding." How can a man relate to a woman if he can not understand her? So seeking understanding is very important. "Keep sound wisdom and judgment." Basically are you a person with common sense. Do you have a solid sense of judgment when it comes to picking mates? These are excellent bits of knowledge when you are looking for a Christian mate. "A generous man will be prosperous." Being generous instead of self-serving is a virtue when you are dealing with others. A self-centered person will eventually turn others away. To find a mate, one must be generous in nature. Spiritual discernment is important in recognizing the inner man instead of the outer man. This will support you in your decision to find a Christian mate online. Because you will not get to see the face of others at first. You must use discernment as you correspond and relate to the other person through email and telephone. So the inner man/woman is an important element in online dating.
How can I be certain this person is a Christian?
To check a dating mate's authenticity, watch for meaningful signs of spirit-filled interest in God and a willingness towards obedience of God's Word, in order to serve the Lord with their total heart, mind and body. These main characteristics show a solid maturity and constant discipline in that person's life. A single Christian person will walk in a manner that is of the flesh, and spirit-filled, wanting to please God instead of man. "But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you." This is what spiritual discernment is all about. Keep a diligent watch for single Christians who walk in the flesh and not in the spirit. This does not mean that they do not believe in God. Many people believe in God, but have carnal mindsets, instead of renewed spiritual minds. These people pursue worldly desires and attitudes of the flesh. A Holy-Spirit inspired mind will desire to please God in all areas of his life including his/her attitude toward others, work life, family, finances, church life, and in their own personal lifestyle. The person whose mind, body and spirit is focused on Christ is truly living an abundant Christian life.
Where can I find other Christian singles?
You can locate hundreds of singles on Christian single websites and online dating centers. You can do this in an anonymous atmosphere, just by going online and signing up at the singles dating center.
Most people approach online dating with a little apprehension at first. They think that online dating is only for people who can't get dates. The real reason most people date online is because in this busy society people have less time to socialize. Many people are working more and socializing less. Some are even working two jobs.
This demanding lifestyle has left a void in many peoples lives. Online dating provides a platform for people who need an easier way to meet and date others. You get a large selection of people to choose from and they can share the same interests as you. These are not random meetings like you would get at a bar. You can test the waters with all your potential daters.
The truth is online dating is growing and more accepted today than it has ever been. Finding your Christian mate can be a rewarding and fun experience. Sign up today!
Christian leaders are saying...
As a Christian who was single for more than a decade before I met my husband. I know the importance of staying in Christian community, fostering relationships with like-minded people, and encouraging one another to wait for sex for marriage. Call me old fashioned, but I believe I'm not the only one who shares these values. I am grateful to ChristianMingle for creating a safe and online community for other Christians to meet while finding God's match for them.
~Renee Fisher, Author of Loves Me Not & Not Another Dating Book, San Diego, CA