Find God's Match for You

Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. - Psalms 37:4

First Cyber Impressions

Searching through members at ChristianMingle can really give you a world of possibilities. Everyone is different and everyone has something great to offer.

But, after you've decided what you're really looking for in a relationship, whether it be friendship or more, it's time to roll up your sleeves and get to work because even in cyber-space first impressions really do count! Your initial contact could make or break a potential date, relationship or even friendship.

Now, we're not saying that looks are everything, but the way your first email comes across is very important. Here are a few suggestions of how to spruce it up so that you can improve your chances of getting a reply and of taking it to the next level:

How To Make Your First Email Work For You:

  • Be yourself. Funny, serious, chivalrous, sweet, sporty, artsy - whatever your personality is offline, let those true colors show in the style of your email. But, don't overdo it or exaggerate.
  • Be polite and respectful. Remember, you are writing to a person, not a computer.
    Humor is usually a great ice-breaker, so if you've got it, use it. (A word of caution: not everyone is funny, nor does everyone appreciate humor - sometimes it can be misunderstood, especially over the wires. So be careful in your selections.)
  • NEVER send out a pre-fab "form" email - It shows! You'll be tossed out with the rest of the junk mail.
  • Let them know that you've really read their profile. This will not only open the door to more communication, but it will illustrate that you are truly interested (the best way to score points, for sure!).
      Some great ways to show that you've read a profile are:
    • comment on the things that caught your eye
    • tell them what you really like about them (compliment as much as you can, but be sincere)
    • discuss something that you have in common
    • ask questions about the things they enjoy
  • Keep the email alive by asking engaging questions. You'll score even more points (people love to talk about themselves!), and this will also help you decide if the two of you are compatible.
      Some examples are:
    • What do you like to do on your time off?
    • What are your favorite movies, books, TV shows?
    • What would your ideal vacation be?
    • If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
    • If you could pick any profession other than your own, what would it be?
    • What are your favorite words, sounds, colors, flavors?
    • What was your favorite thing to do when you were growing up?
    • If you could spend one hour with any historical figure, who would it be?
  • Briefly share about yourself in the email - don't send them straight to your profile.
  • Make sure your profile is in good shape! (they're going to check it out before responding to you.) Spend time on your essays, take it seriously, revise and update until it says exactly what you want it to say. Keep your photos updated! And add a hook to really get them interested.

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Christian leaders are saying...

As a follower of Jesus where do you find that right person, that one who is God’s will for your life? In the past as a Senior Pastor I have said, Find him or her in church. I still believe that but my definition of Church has expanded beyond four walls as I have become a friend and fan of Christian Mingle. God’s man for you ladies or God’s woman for you men may be in a church a thousand miles away; in the next city, or even in the same town. How do you find them? You log onto Christian and allow God to use this process to help you discover the person He has for you. Give God an opportunity to work through Christian Mingle.

~Pastor Jay Dennis, Sr. Pastor, First Baptist Church at the Mall, Lakeland, FL

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